Cuando tenía unos catorce o quince años, un amigo de por aquel entonces me contó que cuando se sentía furioso para explotar, llenaba el lavabo del baño de agua y ponía el tapón para a continuación sumergir su cara dentro y gritar. Decía que gritar era de lo que sentía necesidad, y como ni está bien visto ni se puede hacer según dónde porque puedes asustar a más de uno, había ideado este método para desahogarse y volver a sentirse casi normal.
Nunca he olvidado esa historia. Según cumplimos años, supongo que aprendes a relativizar las cosas y también a darle su verdadero significado (si es que alguna vez lo conseguimos del todo). Ahora recordando esto, por lo pronto se que aquel chico no era un amigo en realidad, sino un compañero de clase con el que hice buenas migas, pero cuando eres un niño o un adolescente, no existen los compañeros; todos son amigos. Y por otro lado, tener que llegar al extremo de gritar para sentirte mejor, casi me cuesta entenderlo en la actualidad. Con esa edad, imagino que gritar podía ayudar, porque las hormonas hacen que lo que corre por las venas sea casi fuego. Pero a estas alturas, todos hemos aprendido a conocernos mejor a nosotros mismos y también otros métodos para huir del mundo durante unos instantes y ayudarnos a volver a nuestro habitual "equilibrio".
Tomar una ducha en momentos de estrés o tensión siempre me ha ayudado. Antes de enjabonarme, dejo que el agua caiga sobre mi cabeza durante un minuto o dos, y lo que hace que me aleje del mundo es escuchar como el agua se desliza por mis orejas, haciendo que casi no pueda distinguir los sonidos que se producen detrás de la puerta del baño, ni siquiera los de dentro del propio baño. Me abstraigo. Sólo oigo el agua y mi respiración. Lo cura todo.
¿Qué métodos usáis para escapar unos segundos sin salir de casa o de la oficina o de donde estéis deseando salir? Me encantaría saber.
P.D: leer un buen libro es otro método infalible. Te transporta al mundo de otras personas y personajes, y olvidas y, sobre todo, relativizas el tuyo.
P.P.D: a veces tras diez minutos, a veces tras un día, a veces tras una semana... pero nada es tan malo como parecía.
When I was about fourteen or fifteen, a friend told me that when he was angry to explode, he filled the bathroom sink with water by putting the plug and then he dipped his face in and screamed. He said screaming was what he needed, and as neither is well regarded and can't be done depending on where because it can be kind of scary, had devised this method to take the pressure out and go back to almost normal again.
I have never forgotten that story. According to getting older, I guess you learn to relativize things and also to give their true meaning (if they ever get it at all). Now remembering this, for example, I can quickly say that this guy was not really a friend, but a classmate with whom I hit it off, but when you're a child or teenager, there are no classmate, right? They are all friends. On the other hand, having to go so far as to scream to feel better, kind of hard to believe to me today. At that age, I guess that screaming could help, because hormones cause that thing running through veins is almost fire. But at this point, we've all learnt to know ourselves better, and other methods to escape the world for a moment and help us return to our usual "balance."
Taking a shower in times of stress or tension has always helped me. Before soaping, let the water fall on my head for a minute or two, and what takes me away from the world, is listening how the water flows down my ears, making them almost unable to distinguish sounds occur behind the bathroom door, even those within the bath itself. I feel in limbo. Only hear the water and my breathing. Heals it all.
What techniques you use to escape a few seconds without leaving your home or office or wherever you are wanting to get out from? Would love to know.
P.S. Reading a good book is another foolproof. Takes you to other people's world, you forget those things you were worry about and, above all, you relativize yours.
P.P.S. Sometimes after ten minutes, sometimes after a day, sometimes after a week... But nothing is as bad as it seemed.
When I was about fourteen or fifteen, a friend told me that when he was angry to explode, he filled the bathroom sink with water by putting the plug and then he dipped his face in and screamed. He said screaming was what he needed, and as neither is well regarded and can't be done depending on where because it can be kind of scary, had devised this method to take the pressure out and go back to almost normal again.
I have never forgotten that story. According to getting older, I guess you learn to relativize things and also to give their true meaning (if they ever get it at all). Now remembering this, for example, I can quickly say that this guy was not really a friend, but a classmate with whom I hit it off, but when you're a child or teenager, there are no classmate, right? They are all friends. On the other hand, having to go so far as to scream to feel better, kind of hard to believe to me today. At that age, I guess that screaming could help, because hormones cause that thing running through veins is almost fire. But at this point, we've all learnt to know ourselves better, and other methods to escape the world for a moment and help us return to our usual "balance."
Taking a shower in times of stress or tension has always helped me. Before soaping, let the water fall on my head for a minute or two, and what takes me away from the world, is listening how the water flows down my ears, making them almost unable to distinguish sounds occur behind the bathroom door, even those within the bath itself. I feel in limbo. Only hear the water and my breathing. Heals it all.
What techniques you use to escape a few seconds without leaving your home or office or wherever you are wanting to get out from? Would love to know.
P.S. Reading a good book is another foolproof. Takes you to other people's world, you forget those things you were worry about and, above all, you relativize yours.
P.P.S. Sometimes after ten minutes, sometimes after a day, sometimes after a week... But nothing is as bad as it seemed.
Uy! Yo lo tengo clarísimo... dormir, esperar "inconsciente" que pase el tiempo. No necesito nada más que un espacio algo mullido y listo.
ResponderEliminarSi, justo hoy hablando de este tema con alguien, puse el ejemplo de otro alguien muy querido cuyo sistema de "huída" infalible es ese mismo. Crees que podrías averiguar de quién hablaba?
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